LET’S START THE CONSERVATION
BREAK THE ICE:
We are now ready to start the conversation. How do we get started? There are five simple steps to start a conversation. This doesn’t necessarily have to be in the same order. Create eye contact accompanied by a warm smile
- RISK opposed to REJECTION: Say hello first
- QUESTIONS: Ask simple question about the person or situation
- VIVACIOUS LISTENING: By listening attentively for information you will know exactly what next to say.
- LOOK FOR INFORMATION: Ask questions on the free information you recently obtained.
- SELF-DISCLOSURE: Divulge ample of your information asking questions which will interest you on a personal level.
FOUR EASY WAYS TO BEGIN A CONVERSATION:
- Make a light hearted or positive comment
- Ask an open-ended or a close-ended question
- Give a compliment which can be followed by a simple question
- Introduce yourself to the other person
RISK OPPOSED TO REJECTION:
There are some risks to start up a conversation with strangers. Many shy people seldom start up conservations because they fear rejection. Naturally this prevents them from reaching out to the other person. Taking risks and rejection are a part of everyday life. Been over perceptive is counterproductive.CHANGE FROM BEING SHY:
Shy people are unreceptive to start a conversation. They will wait hoping that someone will come and start a conversation. Consciously change this way, start by saying hello and make an effort to start the conversation. Introduce yourself; regularly share your feelings, ideas, experiences and opinions. Get information out of other's thoughts, interests, views and knowledge. Advantage of starting up the conversation is that you have the opportunity to project a confident, open and friendly impression.LESSEN REJECTION:
Practice makes a person perfect. That’s the case here - the more you start a conversation, you will receive a better response every time. Well, if you get rejected just learn from it and try again. Look for people who show good body language like open arms smile and eye contact.WAYS TO UNDERSTAND REJECTION:
Don’t assume it’s because of something you did that you got rejected. Possibly the other person is not well, busy or legitimately not interested in you. This shouldn’t hold you back from meeting others. Eventually you will get positive responsesASK SIMPLE QUESTIONS:
Asking simple easy to answer questions will suggest her how interested you are to know her. Ritual question helps to break the uncomfortable silence especially with people you didn’t meet before and want to get to know. To start a conversation with a stranger, notice an interesting thing about them and then in a friendly way complement them. This must be followed by a ritual question about the compliment you offered.LISTENING:
Pay attention to key words that way you will know what’s next to say. Listen carefully to feelings opinions and of cause the free information. Don’t think of what you going to say just listen to what is said that way you will know how to reply. Asking questions about what is been discussed indicates you are interested and listening.LOOKING FOR INFORMATION:
Seek more information on the information you already learnt. Make conversation by the information you have. Ask unrestricted questions on the conversation or information you have. Some examples of free information are about the persons clothing, body language, physical features, personal behavior, activities and her words.SELF-DISCLOSURE:
Self-disclosure reveals about you to others. Be passionate when you talk about personal interests, talk about your life, dreams and goals also talk about your place of employment. Finally most important give your contact details.
Continue on to the big picture by reading Making New Friends.